until the violence stops…

Shirley told me she went to see The Vagina Monologues last night with her mum and sister.
that got me surfing to see what’s been going on in the world of V*. so thanks to her for sparking this…

i found this great video from the V-Day 10 year celebrations at the end of last year:

and then i found this,

MENding Monologues.

a guy in Sedona, Arizona has started a project that is in partnership with V-Day… some of the content is powerful… videos here on youtube (which is how i happened upon it)
the project does two types of show: the touring show, and community shows, where men take part in workshops and write their own monologues. <– examples on that page.

“Our shows are a healing to men, a love letter to women and call to end violence in all its forms.”

violence againt women not only damages women, it damages men. and it silences them. which is what all forms of abuse do. silences. puts the things we don’t want to be brought into the light into a closet with the door jammed shut. it makes the truth into a dirty secret no one dare talk about. it creates fear. and in that atmosphere of intimidation, fear and secrets, the abuse goes on.

but i believe men can be just as empowered as women to raise their voice and express their feelings and desire for justice for women, and to heal in the process. MENding Monologues seems to be aiming for just that.

i’ve been waiting for a long time for somone to take seriously what V-Day is about and find a way to bring men’s voices into the conversation. the appropriate response to The Vagina Monologues is not balance things out with The Penis Monologues. it might be entertaining but i think that misses the point. instead, it is to hear the call The Vagina Monologues is making: to end violence by ending silence. that takes courage. but i also know that the process empowers. not with power over, but power for. that power for is what V-Day is all about.
and i’m glad there’s an attempt being made to invite men’s voices into that experience. i know from my own experience how enriching and empowering it was to take part in The Vagina Monologues. that’s an experience i’d want for anyone. and the more voices, the better. this empowers men to share their stories too.

this monologue is a true story courageously told by the man who wrote it. the names have been changed.

and should my dear friends who have suffered and survived rape, assault and abuse ever pass by this page and read this, know i am thinking of you as i write, with as much love, pride and admiration at your survivor’s courage as always…

altogether now:

C, C, Ca, Ca, Cavern, Cackle, Clit, Cute, Come…

LB

*remember, V is for Vaginas and Victory Over Violence.

satire meets tyranny

take this quote from mark twain

and mix it with last night’s daily show iran coverage & interview with Embrahim Yazdi’s son (22/06/09)

and, if you feel moved to respond to Yazdi’s advice, there’s an opportunity as an individual to voice your concern to Ayatollah Sayed Ali Khamenei via an email campaign set up last week on the Amnesty International USA, or take up the alternative actions (e.g. contacting local Iranian embassies) available your local Amnesty site.

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Caspian Makan, Neda Agha-Setan’s fiancee, was interviewed by BBC Persia:

About payment for releasing the remains, Mr. Makan had this to say: “No specific amount has been paid at this time, although hospitals, clinics, surgeons and medical examiners have been ordered by the Iranian security services, based on various orders, not to list ‘bullet wound’ as the cause of death on the death certificate in order to prevent the families from filing international complaints in the future. I haven’t seen the release notice of Neda’s remains yet, but I will obtain it from her father in the coming days.” (via Nico Pitney on 22/06. italics my own.)

there is a lack of logic to this defensive policy that even a child could spot. this is not ‘simply’ avoidance of future charges via evidence tampering and supression of truth. in a case of domestic abuse, the use of this underlying manipulation of logic and reality on an adult, let alone a child, would be filed under evidence of psychological abuse. as bureaucratic defense, (as has been so consistently evident in Khamenei’s speech last Friday and all other attempts by authorities to deny electoral fraud) it’s nothing short of Orwellian.

but then as someone pointed out to me last night, recalling Zimbabwe as just one of so many examples, since when did the insanity of believing of one’s own lies ever stop anyone fron running a country for 30 years?

tragically, it doesn’t stop there:

12:40 AM ET — A 19-year-old shot in the head and killed during the demonstrations… and Iranian officials asked his parents to “pay an equivalent of $3,000 as a ‘bullet fee’ — a fee for the bullet used by security forces — before taking the body back.” One of the most tragic stories I’ve read in a long time, by the Wall Street Journal’s exceptional Farnaz Fassihi. (Nico Pitney)

i’ll be honest and say i read that quote and found it difficult to comprehend, such is the inhumane mindfuck this adding-insult-to-murder represents.

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i’ve not been able to get this reader post from the daily dish out of my head. only time will tell if the reader called it right, but whatever is to come, i suspect this’ll still win my nomination for best use of motherfucker in 2009.

i find myself unavoidably reminded that looking the other way and saying nothing, or taking more interest in Perez Hilton than global hunger, AIDS, genocide, war crimes and political oppression is a choice granted to those of us who have democratic freedom.
i count myself fortunate to have the undeniable luxury of limiting my cares and concerns solely to the insignificant and peurile if i should so choose, however much that is an arguably wasteful disregard of one’s liberty and humanity.

LB

no excuse for apathy

the events that are unfolding are significant on a number of levels – first and foremost for the people of Iran and their self-determination. but i suspect, like many others online tonight suspect, that we may yet see an even wider change…

i feel something like sadness underneath the amazement and horror at what is being broadcast via the new media today. there is a degree to which i am ashamed. that we who have so much freedom squander the right to publicly rally and raise our voices.

“Life has come to a halt. There were at least 2-3M in the streets today. I’ve never seen such anger. We are not going let this go. They’ve closed all the universities (during final exams) and have started a purge. Many of our professors are missing and student organizers are moving constantly to avoid detainment. The police is just watching and the army has declared neutrality. The violence is 100% caused by the BASIJ and thugs who are roaming the streets. They seem to be targeting girls, swinging with clubs and chains. Its disgusting but we are protected by numbers. Get the word out– the more of us stand together, the safer each individual will be. The reports of the university attacks yesterday are true. We don’t know how many were hurt or killed.”
from a dish reader, here. italics and highlight my own.

i hope we learn from the people of Iran. for not only do we not stand up and use our freedom to speak loudly in solidarity with those who are voiceless in other parts of the world, we rarely stand up for the voiceless in our own neighbourhoods…

for those who have lost their lives and suffered brutality, may we feel deep sorrow…

as the bumper sticker say,

if you’re not outraged, you’re not paying attention

and most of the time, i’m not…
they are outraged. and i am humbled to be alive to witness their courage and tenacity.

for in all of this, i can only speak for myself. when i say, “we“, i really mean “i“. but if they seek others to add their voice, count me in the collective…

LB